Control your desperation by controlling your attitude. There is no problem that can't be tackled by a little bit of imagination and pluck. Part 4. Avoid hitchhiking. Keep in mind, if you do decide to hitchhike , that there are drivers that will do some bad things to you. They could abandon you or even hurt you. However, on the flip-side, there are also really nice people out there who would gladly take you with them. It's all about reading the driver and making a decision. Try to hitch rides with a nice lady, a family with several children, or a car with passengers.
They will probably want to ask you where you are going, or what you are doing, so have a nice little lie handy. Do not tell them that you ran away from home, and say as little to them as possible.
If a sketchy or scary looking person offers to give you a ride, ask them where they're going first. When they answer, tell them you're going to a different place, preferably far away. If they say that they can take you there, politely refuse and cut off communication after that. Wait for them to drive off. Protect yourself. If you are in a big city with many people, know that there are likely people who could pose a threat to you.
Bring something with which you can defend yourself, such as pepper spray, cleaning chemicals, or perfume because perfume contains chemicals that can cause blindness. Being aware of dangers and avoiding them is usually better than having to confront them, however.
Walk away from people who pose a threat to you. Stand upright and tall, and keep your composure, but don't argue or aggravate them. Try to get to a public, well-lit area where there are a lot of people. There's usually strength in numbers. Don't get pulled into prostitution. Don't let anyone do anything to you that you are uncomfortable with. If you get desperate enough that you feel you need to resort to this, seek help.
Local charities and churches will help you without asking too many questions. Prostitution is a common outcome of running away. Actually, a study showed that one in four of runaways, both boys and girls, were victims of trafficking or used sex to get things like food and shelter. Be very careful. Avoid drugs and alcohol. Be careful and do not use drugs, no matter how bad you feel.
Try to avoid getting arrested. Homeless people are much more likely to be arrested, usually for being a nuisance, loitering, or trespassing. You want to avoid having to spend a lot of time in jail, so be careful where you go and how you look and act. Be careful around the other homeless people. There are also people who are dangerous. Try to avoid being around other homeless people to keep yourself safe.
You need it to pay for things like public transport, food, and entering some public places e. In addition, costs can come up when you don't expect them to, like having to pay money to stay a night in a homeless shelter, or losing your water bottle and having to buy a new one. Being without money is going to make survival and getting around as well as many emergency situations much, much harder.
Not Helpful 64 Helpful You can go to school, but it is likely that your teachers or administrators will report your presence and return you back home. Not Helpful Helpful Don't run away solely to gauge the reactions of your family.
Running away is not something to be taken lightly - you can easily get into unsafe situations, and potentially end up dead or permanently traumatized, which really isn't worth just trying to see if your family would miss you.
If you're struggling with your family situation and feel rejected or unloved, talk to them about it using "I" statements , or if that's really not possible, seek out the help of a trusted adult or mental health professional especially if you're being abused. There are undoubtedly other options to solve the situation that don't involve putting yourself in danger. Try to borrow money from a friend. The easiest option would be to not run away, but if you're suffering abuse, contact social services through a trusted adult.
Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Talk to yourself. Do you really have to run away? Do you have a higher chance of survival at home or in a faraway place? Is there someone else you can stay with, such as a trusted grandparent?
Don't make harsh decisions in a hurry. There are other options for young people. Helpful 1 Not Helpful 0. If your situation is abusive, dysfunctional, related to substance issues, related to your relationship, or anything else, it's good to have someone to talk to before going on your own. Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0. Helpful 2 Not Helpful 0. On the other hand, do not stay in a place where your parents or the police will know to look for you.
This should be fairly obvious but avoid places where you could be seen by someone that knows who you are and could in turn report you to the police. Try to get a safe distance from home. Don't freak out if you appear on the news. If you are a missing person chances are there will be a news bulletin about you. Don't tell your friends that you're running away. They might tell your parents or the police. Try not to wear anything that someone might recognize you in, like your favorite shirt or a personalized sweater.
If you carry your things in a backpack, then you will look like an average kid going to school to adults. Be polite, but don't get particularly friendly with anyone or they'll want to know all about you. If you do decide to run away permanently, however, you should probably try to change yourself. Think of this as a "fresh start. Bring something to do when you decided to run away. You're probably going to get bored quickly.
Stay somewhere where you know your parents and the authorities aren't likely to find you, such as a trustworthy acquaintance that your family doesn't know about. Try not to take your phone, but if you must, do not update your social media! Don't add any new friends on your old account. Make a new account for your fake name if you feel the need to, but remember it is still very risky.
Don't upload any pictures of yourself or places that are specific to your area to the new account. You can use public washrooms in malls and shops, and you can tend to your hygienic needs in public pool or gym changing rooms. You may want to leave a note so your parents know you weren't kidnapped.
Don't give away too much information, though. Something like "I'm visiting a friend's house for the week" will work. You may want to try rotating homes between friends. Start off somewhere where no one will look for you, then after a bit, or when another person notifies you, leave that place and stay with a different person. However, you will need floor plans of each house you stay at to determine the best route out in case of emergency.
You also have to be sure that you do not leave anything behind that could clue in authorities. If you have good skills in the wilderness, you could try packing a tent and start living there for a while. NRS will help you speak to your parents via a 3-way conference call or even deliver a message to them on your behalf.
Their Home Free program gives adolescents and teens a free Greyhound bus ticket to come back to their parent or legal guardian while arranging a better living situation than the one you left, such as an alternative living arrangement ALA if your home situation is not a safe one. We are open and accepting clients. For more information about our treatment programs for teens. Ready to Get Help for Your Child? Your child will receive the highest caliber of care in our comfortable, home-like residential treatment centers.
To speak with our admissions coordinators, call: Yael Klein. Call us today for a free consultation with a counselor: If you're thinking of running away, are currently missing or being forced to leave home, you should talk to an adult you trust - an aunt, grandparent, friend's parents.
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Please enable JavaScript in your web browser to get the best experience. Young people Advice. Some even decide to leave without ever having a fight. They might have done something they're ashamed of, and they're afraid to tell their parents. These are problems faced by lots of kids and teens — and there are ways to deal with all of these problems besides running away. Kids who think about running away might not know how to solve tough problems or don't have adults to help them.
Sometimes a really big problem can make it seem like running away is the only choice. Unfortunately, the problems kids hope to escape by running away are replaced by other — sometimes even bigger — problems of life on the streets. When you think about running away, you probably imagine that there will be no more rules, no parent to tell you what to do, no more fights.
Sounds great and exciting, right? In reality, running away is anything but fun. Kids and teens who run away face new problems like not having any money, food to eat, a safe place to sleep, or anyone to look out for them.
People with no home and no money become desperate, doing anything just to meet their basic needs. Because of this, they often find themselves in risky situations that would be frightening, even for adults.
Runaway kids get involved in dangerous crimes much more often than kids who live at home. Kids who live on the streets often have to steal to meet basic needs. Many take drugs or alcohol to get through the day because they become so depressed and feel that no one cares about them. Some are forced to do things they wouldn't normally do to make money. Let's face it — stress is a part of life, even for kids — but being able to deal with problems with confidence, hope, and practical solutions makes kids less likely to run away.
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